What is sex? What is sexual intercourse?

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Intercourse, coitus or copulation are terms that refer mainly to the insertion and friction of the penis, usually erect, in the vagina, for the purpose of sexual stimulation or reproduction, which is also called vaginal sex.

What does the Bible say about Sex?

What do you know about sex?
Based on the concepts of the world, the earlier one begins to "experience" with sex, the greater the understanding of the subject and the better the sexual performance in the future. But is this really true?

Could it be that surrendering to sex without knowing its purpose and its power, and often without having the necessary responsibility to deal with its consequences, would really be the best option?

The only safe source to answer these questions is the Bible, after all, no one better to teach us about sex than the one who created sex (Acts 17:24a).

The pleasure of sex
Sex is capable of generating one of the greatest pleasures we can experience in life (Prov. 5:18-19). It is something that touches a person's deepest feelings, emotions and desires.

The huge problem is that this can happen both positively and negatively; for although sex was created by God as something good, pure and perfect (Gen. 1:31), after the entry of sin into the world, man acquired the ability to also use it for evil (Mark 7:21-23).

The only possibility we have to enjoy all the benefits provided by sex, without being dominated and imprisoned by it, is by turning to God and what He teaches us about sex (Prov. 5:1-2).

The power of sex
God not only created sex, He made it a commandment. The first time he spoke to the man, the order was: "Be fruitful and multiply!" (Gen 1:28), something which is only possible through sex.

Another direction that God gave to man, regarding sex, was that at a certain point in his life, he should leave his parents and be united to a woman (Gen. 2:24).

While sex has the power to multiply and generate new lives, it also has the power to unite two people into one flesh (Mark 10:7-9, Eph. 5:31).

The Purpose of Sex
Sex requires responsibility and understanding (Prov. 7:1-5). For this reason, it is fundamental to understand not only the power that exists in sex, but mainly the purposes and principles for which God created it.

Family
The first of them is to form families, not just beget children (Ps. 127:3). After all, a child's life depends on care; needs love, affection, sustenance. It is even the responsibility of parents to educate and build a child's character (Prov. 22:6).

Simply "putting children into the world" without worrying about it is to deviate from the main purpose of sex (1 Tim. 5:8). And to prevent this from happening, another principle of God for sex is commitment, that is: marriage (1 Cor. 7:2).
Marriage
The Bible does not consider sex by itself like a marriage, it teaches that before sexual intercourse between a couple there must be a public testimony of the commitment between the man and the woman (Mat. 1:18-19, 1 Cor. 7:9, 1 Cor. 7:36, Heb. 13:4 ).

However, once this commitment is established before the law and men, it is the sexual relationship that consolidates the marriage before God (Gen. 24:67).

And from then on, the two become one flesh. The Bible teaches that now the man's body belongs to his wife, and the wife's body belongs to the man, and that one should not deny himself to the other (1 Cor. 7:4-5a).
Providing pleasure to the spouse
This is where we can understand one more important purpose of sex: to provide pleasure to the other (1 Cor. 7:3), to the "owner" of your body. Sex is giving to the other what belongs to you (Song 2:16).

That is why self-pleasure, the fruit of masturbation, is a distortion of sex. The Biblical principle of sexual pleasure is to give it not to yourself, but to your spouse (Song 1:2, Song 4:10).

Sexual immorality (porneia)
Any sexual relationship outside of marriage marriage, regardless of context, is sexual immorality (1 Thes. 4:3); regarded by God as fornication (1 Cor. 6:18).

The Greek term used for illicit sexual intercourse is porneia (πορνεία – por-ni’-ah). It can manifest itself through adultery (Mat. 19:9), when one of the people is married; fornication (Mt 15:19), if the sexual relationship is between two unmarried people; incest (1 Cor. 5:1), when it involves close relatives (family members); homosexuality (Rom 1:26-27), when it involves people of the same sex; pedophilia (Eph 5:12), when it involves children; and bestiality (Deut. 27:21), when it involves a human being and an animal.

The consequences of illicit sex
The consequences for those who practice sexual immorality are almost always destructive, especially for Christians, who profanes the body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and makes an alliance with prostitution (1 Cor. 6:15-20).

Having sex means marriage?

The Bible does not consider sex by itself as a marriage, it teaches that before sexual intercourse between a couple there must be a public testimony of the commitment between the man and the woman (Mat. 1:18-19, 1 Cor. 7:9, 1 Cor. 7:36, Hebrews 13:4).

However, once this commitment is established before the law and men, it is the sexual relationship that consolidates the marriage before God (Genesis 24:67). SO YES, SEX MEANS MARRIAGE, GENESIS 24:67.

And from then on, the two become one flesh. The Bible teaches that now the man's body belongs to his wife, and the wife's body belongs to the man, and that one should not deny himself to the other (1 Cor. 7:4-5a).

Can there be sexual intercourse before marriage?

The Bible says that sex before marriage is a sin. 4000 years after Creation (the command) the virgin Mary response to the angel (Luke 1:34): "How shall this be, since I have no husband?" Even betrothed she has NO sexual relation! Ezekiel 44:22 They shall not marry a widow, or a divorced woman, but only a virgin of the stock of the house of Israel. And that is FUTURE, for the priests in the to build temple in the Great Tribulation! Therefore, no way we presently ONLY 2000 years after the virgin Mary we can say: "That is not of our time", since it is valid due to Ezekiel.

Sex was created by God to be enjoyed within marriage. Marriage is very important for a healthy sexual relationship.

Sexual relationship is more than an act of pleasure. It is a physical and spiritual union between the couple. The two become one (Genesis 2:24). There is no such thing as casual sex.

The sexual relationship creates a very strong bond between two people, uniting them in a special way. Outside of marriage, this link can be very dangerous. Sex without commitment causes:

Emotional distress
Unwanted pregnancy
Broken families
Problems in relationship with God
The Bible is very clear: whoever wants to have a sexual relationship must get married first (1 Corinthians 7:9).

Are all forms of sex allowed? Which are prohibited?

Anal sex is condemned by the Biblical references of Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:10, 13 when Paul quotes "sodomy" he is referring to anal sex, both for homosexuals and for heterosexuals, thus prohibiting this practice.

But it is not just the Bible that is used to teach that anal intercourse is not accepted. "Another argument used by people who condemn anal sex is the fact that it causes physiological damage to the woman, causing calluses and bleeding on the inner walls of the anus and increasing the risk of contamination from sexually transmitted diseases".

In marriage, oral sex is wrong

Due to four possible reasons why it would be considered wrong.

It is wrong because it is forbidden in the Bible
It would be wrong since it is NOT natural
It is wrong because it caused harm to health
It can be cruel.

So let us take them one at a time.

Number 1, although oral sex is explicitly prohibited in any Biblical commandment, it is prohibited in the Bible, based on some principle of Romans 1:26-27. Likewise the Trinity (God the Father, Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit) is not explicitly mentioned in the Bible either. Sodom and Gomorrah and the letter of the Romans it is very clear that God rejects any unnatural sexual relationship (The natural sexual relationship: the penis in the vagina).

Number 2, is it a practice which is unnatural! This one is tricky. Male and female genitalia are so clearly made for each other that there is a natural fit and beauty. What about oral sex? Maybe that makes one jump to the conclusion that it is unnatural. But not so quickly to jump to that conclusion because of what Proverbs and Song of Solomon say about a wife's breasts. It seems that there is nothing more natural than a baby snuggled in his mother's arms, suckling at her breasts. That is what breasts are for. They are designed to breastfeed babies.

So is there anything physically natural about a husband's fascination with his wife's breasts? Well, maybe you might say, "No, that is not what breasts are for." But Proverbs 5:19 NVI says, "Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be drunk with her caresses." And Song of Solomon 7:7-8 is even more explicit. It is said of a woman: "Your bearing is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters. I said, I will climb the palm tree, I lay hold of its branches and your breasts be like the clusters of the vine."

Well... While there is not much anatomical correlation between a man's hands or lips and his wife's breasts, it does seem to be "natural" in another sense, namely, in the inherent pleasure and desire that God, in his Word, seems to recommend for our marriage delight.

So I ask: Are there similar cravings for oral sex or other forms of sex? As such, we should limit the couple based on the idea that it is unnatural. It is risky, see number 3.

Number 3, is it harmful to health? Well, it is possible that it will, if sexually transmitted diseases are present, and it is possible that it is practiced in ways that are harmful. The woman may suffocate during oral sex. If the woman swallows the seed, it can cause harm. So, the couple needs to be very honest and careful, not taking risks that lack love, which brings us to the fourth reason, number 4.

Is it insensitive? This is the most sensitive point of the issue and it is the point that causes the most impact. Will you pressure your spouse to perform oral sex if he or she finds it unpleasant? If you do that, you are being insensitive. It is a sin to be insensitive. Ephesians 4:32: "Be kind to one another." The key word here is "press". Contradict? 1 Corinthians 7:4 says: "For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does". BUT one needs to read it in its context, it is all about CARING AND LOVE.

So, in practice, what does this mean? Well, it means that both husband and wife can say to each other, "I would like ____." And both have the right to say, "I do not want ____." And in a good marriage, in a Biblically beautiful marriage, one tries to be more kind than the other. So, these are the principles that should serve as a parameter for the Christian couple in this matter of oral sex.